Many of you have asked how I got my curls back and how I maintain them. I’m always more than happy to help especially because I went through the transitioning process and it wasn’t easy.
There were days where I would wash my hair and the only parts that would curl were my roots, leaving the rest of my hair straight. I would constantly beat myself up over it because I damaged my hair on my own. I dyed it light brown, which already hardened my hair texture, and then I made one of the worst mistakes of my life: I dyed it red using bleach ONE month after! In addition, I would also add constant heat to my hair- only worsening the situation. After all, my hair wouldn’t curl, so what else was there to do to it?!
A year and four months later, I finally woke up from that nightmare and finally got my curls back. Don’t mean to sound cheesy but my life literally turned around, lol. I was so happy to have my natural hair back- what I was most happy about was just being able to wash-and-go.
In a time where natural hair is being appreciated, it’s virtually essential to love the crown you wear on your head. So if you’re currently transitioning, you’ve come to the right place.
For my transition-ers:
1. To start off, you must stop bleaching and dying your hair.
We should all know that bleach and constant hair coloring will ruin your curl pattern. Your curls will resemble a noodle-like pattern and your hair texture will become dry and brittle. Bleach and hair dye will also give your hair a brassier color (especially if you don’t use a toner or moisturize your hair), which makes your damaged curls look even more unhealthy.
2. Stop adding constant heat to your hair.
You don’t have to cut off all heat use, but you should definitely aim to straighten your hair about 3 times a month. Whenever you do blow dry your hair, make sure to do rollers and go in the hair dryer! Blow drying your hair right after you wash it can irritate it and leave it with little moisture. And PLEASE- DON’T USE FLAT IRONS!!!! They are curly hair’s worst enemy and they’re the quickest way to ruin your curl pattern.
3. Let go of the hair gel, spray, and other not-so-hair-friendly products.
I have used a few Olive Oil products simply because they deeply moisturize my hair and they’re great for protective hair styles. One of my favorites is the Olive Oil “Incredibly Rich Protective Hair Lotion.” I have used it on my curls and I even when my hair is straight; it keeps it healthy, shiny, and moisturized. After all, your hair should never beg for moisture! Protective hair styles are super helpful because you don’t have to add heat to your hair and you have a hairstyle you can stick to during your transitioning process. My protective hairstyle was a middle part with a low bun/ponytail, it looks chic and it’s also pretty easy to do!
4. I have to make this very clear: THE ONLY WAY YOU WILL ACHIEVE YOUR NATURAL CURLS IS BY CUTTING YOUR HAIR!!!!
I can’t stress this enough. There is no other way around it. There is NO curly-hair product that can retrieve your curl pattern. I’ve spent a lot of money on useless products in hopes to get my curls back and they were unsuccessful. There are products that enhance your curls, but don’t expect to achieve curls through these products if your hair isn’t curling. After all, your natural hair is natural, so if you have bleach or color in your hair, the only real way to get rid of it is to cut your hair as it grows out. I know the process can be overwhelming because hair doesn’t grow super fast (if it did, the transition process would be much easier.) I would cut my ends every 3 months because I didn’t want my hair to be too short. Some people cut their hair every 6-8 weeks, but it’s up to you to choose which timeframe you want. After slowly cutting my hair, I finally decided to do a bigger chop, and my curls literally bounced right after. My hair only had about 2 inches of straight hair left, so I knew this chop was going to be it, and it was!
5. PATIENCE IS KEY!
The transitioning process isn’t the easiest, but it’s worth it. It took me a year and 4 months to finally get my curls back. I really thought it was going to take much longer, but I started taking the steps to achieve my natural hair and I got rewarded at the end. They say if you’re sad, then your hair will be sad too- very true! I would literally look at my damaged curls in the mirror and I would cry sometimes- that’s how serious it was. Now, I’m much more happier and so is my hair. What I love the most about my curls is the convenience I have with them. All I have to do is wash my hair, add product, diffuse, and go. Definitely much more convenient than adding heat and styling. Patience!
Remember: it’s never easy, but it’s always worth it.
June 2015-January 2017
Stay tuned for my next post on how to maintain your curls!